Joliet Central High School
Joliet, Illinois
Teacher: Michael Reilly

Growing
Up Today
By
Bettylou Wahl
Grade
11
A
part of everyone’s life is growing up. In society today there is no
adolescent phase. From every teenager’s point of view, they are either
adults or children. Most teenagers are doing things adults would normally do;
drinking alcohol and having sex. Teenagers think that by doing these things,
it makes them an adult. They just end up doing things they are not ready for.
The most common factors that adolescents think make them adults are drugs and alcohol. You have to be eighteen years old to buy cigarettes, but why not skip a couple of years and start now. I’ll regret it after I’m addicted but at least I’ll look “cool”, like an adult while I’m fourteen and smoking. Teenagers also think that smoking pot and taking hits off acid makes them “cool”. When a group of teenagers go to parties and get drunk, do they feel like adults? If that drunk feeling is part of adulthood, I’d rather be a child forever.
Along
with adulthood comes responsibility. Some teenagers have already experienced
this responsibility. They have jobs and buy their wants with the money they
earn. Believe it or not, some parents kick their children out of the house or
make them pay rent and buy their needs. Sure their parents are trying to get
them ready for the “real world”, but some parents don’t even help their
kids. It’s like they don’t care about them after a certain age. These
teens will grow up to soon and have a bad first experience in the ‘real
world’.
More
and more adolescents, some as early as nine years old, are already having sex.
Not thinking of the consequences, the girl gets pregnant. This causes children
to have children. Some teenage girls keep their babies, others seek adoption
or abortion. These girls get help from their parents, but rarely from the boy
who got them pregnant. This boy will usually deny the pregnancy and go his
separate way. The girls that keep their babies are forced to grow up and never
really mature. They face a future they are not ready for. Some girls drop out
of school and get jobs to support their children. The grades drop of those who
stay in school. These teens once had a bright future but threw it away for one
night of fun.
Teenagers
are just trying to be accepted as adults. They think that by doing adult
things make them adults. People try to skip the adolescent phase and jump
right into adulthood. I believe that some of the most important things you
learn in life are learned in these years. Without these lessons, you’ll
learn after it’s to late.
When
one teenager does something that makes him/her
look like an adult to an
adult, other teenagers will do it too. This is their way of making their own
right of passage. Actually what these teens are doing may hurt them later in
life. Some adults look down on what these teens are doing. Sometimes the
adults are right. Take the example of gangs. A teenager joins them as a rite
of passage or a substitute family. These teens end up doing idiotic things.
Why? Because the gang members tell them to.
N
ot
all teens do bad things. One teen may do very good in school or help in their
community and get rewarded. The adults in the community will see that not all
teenagers are bad and that these kids are positive role models for teens.
Other teens will follow their lead to get recognized too!
A
rite of passage should measure maturity. People mature at different times in
their life. Only when a person has matured, they can be totally responsible in
their own life. Adults sometimes wonder why teens act as they do. The truth is
that they haven’t matured yet and will make stupid mistakes. Some teenagers
think of gangs as their rite of passage. Being in a gang, in my opinion, is
something most teens aren’t ready for and not to mention stupid. Gangs are a
very dangerous and shouldn’t even be in society. If a teenager wants to be
in a gang I don’t think there
is anything able to stop them. They should know that once you’re in, there
is no easy way out.
Communities
already have a rite of passage for teens! When you’re sixteen years old, you
are able to drive a car legally. Of course you must pass a test first, and
after you do you’re one step closer to becoming an adult. Being able to vote
also comes with being eighteen years old. Not only are you considered an adult
by the government, you are also maturing. More rites of passage are completing
junior high and graduating from high school. Once you graduate, you have more
knowledge and skills needed to help you in the ‘real world.’
One of the final steps in becoming an adult is getting a job, but not
everyone is able to keep their jobs for long periods of time.
Many
teens today think that there isn’t any rite of passage into adulthood. They
try adult things and think that makes them one. There are many opportunities
in communities that are like a rite of passage. The one factor that truly
makes an adult is maturity. Becoming mature takes time and everyone has time
to spare. What teens should realize is that you only live once. If you rush
into something you’re not ready for, you’ll regret it and miss out on a
fun part of your life.
Answers
to the Required Reading Questions
Q1)
What does Margaret Mead say at the start of her 1961 Preface to
Coming Of Age In Samoa that is
reminiscent of a current Army
recruiting commercial?
Margaret Mead mentions the future of young people which is similar to a
current Army recruiting commercial. She mentions how young people are becoming
less than they might be because they understand so little about culture. This
is just like an Army commercial because they always say how in the Army you
will build character and see the world. Both Mead and the Army commercial note
how you determine the shape of the world for your children.
Q2)
Which of the following issues of the 1920’s are no longer issues today?
The
effects of artificially separating children from a knowledge of
birth, love, and death.
The
issue - effects of artificially
separating children from a knowledge of birth, love, and death- no longer is
an issue today. No matter where you go or what you see, children will be
exposed to birth, love, and death. While watching television, children will
see these issues. Every child always asks the question, “Where did I come
from?” Most of the time the parent will be truthful. Children will be
exposed to these factors in their families. Mom could be pregnant with a
little sibling or a relative may have recently died. Whenever the child goes
out shopping with their parents, they are bound to see two people showing
affection toward each other. If these children see all these factors early on,
they won’t be surprised to see
them at a later age.
Q3)
Do you agree with Margaret Mead that “culture is man-made and that man
is free to design it closer to the desires of his own heart?”
What definition of “culture”
do you find in your dictionary?
I agree with Margaret Mead. If culture wasn’t man-made would we even exist? I don’t think we would because every little thing you do in life makes up part of your culture. Like Mead said, “man is free to design it closer to the desires of his own heart,” people are going to do anything they want to. When one person, for example, wears socks to keep their feet warm, this action may appeal to other people and thus a part of culture is born.
Culture
to me is more than just beliefs and customs, it’s a way of life. Without
culture we would have no way of living. It’s a freedom of expression. If you
want to dye your hair purple, then go ahead. That’s your culture and I have
no right to say anything improper to you. I believe that there are not two
people with the same culture. Two people could have the same beliefs but their
minds and ways of expression aren’t the same.
Q4)
In her writings what was Margaret Mead advocating?
I
think Margaret Mead was advocating that where you live plays a tremendous role
in your life. The environment surrounding you will affect how
you will act. If someone
called you a bad name you would react differently if you live in a city than
somebody who lives in the country. I think Mead also was advocating that no
matter where you live, teenagers will go through the same physical and
emotional changes. All teenagers will have to go through the stages of
puberty. Teens will also face issues such as a death, birth, and love.
Q5) Comment on Susan’s speech. Do you and your peers really want adults to recognize what is going on and enforce “boundaries and structure”?
What
Susan said in her speech is what goes on at my school. The students, smoking
pot outside of my school, rarely get caught and decide to come to class really
high. Sometimes it’s the students you would expect that are smoking pot, but
most of the it’s not who you would expect.
One thing that Susan said isn’t true at my school. I never saw anyone
come to school with alcohol even if it was mixed with some juice.
Parents
that just leave liquor laying around are just stupid. They know that their
kids will drink some alcohol. Usually the kids will get caught by their
parents and then the parents will hide the alcohol.
I
think adults know exactly what’s going on but they are to afraid to do
anything. For some reason they just sit there and watch teenagers mess up
their lives. When they do enforce boundaries, the teens will do it again any
way because the punishment wasn’t strong enough. If nothing happens soon to
help solve these problems, I’m scared to see what the future will hold.
Q6) Write three things that you “absolutely, positively know, saw or experienced concerning drugs and alcohol” among students at your school.
Students
at my school have done drugs. When I drive to the student parking lot, there
is always a group of teenagers, from my school, outside smoking pot. This
happens everyday before and even during school. Once in a while they get
caught and punished but most of the time nothing happens. These students end
up going to class when they are high. Why even come to school if you don’t
want to learn anything?
Sometimes
when I’m out with my friends, one of them will smoke. They started in eight
grade and said they wouldn’t get addicted. Well now they are a junior in
high school and they are trying to quit. I really hope they quit soon because
every time they smoke I get sick from it.
In
everyone’s life they will go to some sort of party. Most of the time these
parties will have alcohol. With alcohol comes drunk teens. They end up doing
stupid things and sometimes they get hurt. I remember this girl standing on
top of a table and she started stripping. Of course the guys were persuading
her to get completely naked. Thank god somebody pulled her off the table and
stopped her from doing that!
Q7)
Do you have a solution for the “plight of the black teenager”?
It’s
a sad, sad world when everybody stereotypes people by their appearance.
The “plight of the black teenager” article shows this stereotype.
Charles never did anything wrong but yet he is always watched. My suggestion
for him is that he should always be polite to everyone, even if they aren’t
to you, and try to set examples. If people see a black male teenager working
at a nursing home helping people, they’ll notice that not all teens are bad
and don’t live up to their stereotype. It may not happen right away but by
setting examples like these and being polite, hopefully the stereotyping will
die down and eventually be eliminated.
Q8) Would it be a relief if all you had to do was “go to classes and learn”? Would you be happy if you were home-schooled or attend a single-sex school where academics were presented in an exciting way and learning was admired even by peers?
It
would be a relief to just “go to class and learn”. If that was all I would
have to do, life would be easy. I wouldn’t have to worry about what the
future holds for me and I wouldn’t have to face the “real world”. On the
other hand life would get boring after a while and wouldn’t be as exciting.
It would just be the same routine day after day and I believe it’s good to
have variety.
I
really wouldn’t want to be home-schooled or attend a same-sex school. In
home-school you don’t make any friends and all you know is what you’re
taught. You would have no experience with people around your age. In same-sex
schools you wouldn’t have the opportunity to work and associate with members
of the opposite sex. Both of these factors make it harder when you go in the
“real world”. I would like my academics to be presented in an exciting way
and to be admire by my peers. It would be even better if that was at every
school but we don’t live in a
perfect world.
Q9) Comment on the line from Pete Seeger: “Schools are like prisons because they don’t teach you how to live.” and Jonathan’s comment “People in school are dulled by the remoteness to the real world.” Would more classes incorporating community-based learning be helpful?
Pete
Seeger’s line, “Schools are like prisons because they don’t teach you
how to live” is true. You go to school to learn academics. Can anyone really
teach you how to live? People can show and help you but they can’t teach you
how to live your own life.
The
comment from Jonathan, “People in school are dulled by the remoteness to the
real world” is also true. When you’re in school, the teachers and
administrators kind of pamper you. Just because you may do something wrong
doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be punished. It’s not like you’re five
years old.
I
don’t think classes dealing with the real life situations would be helpful.
Sure they might show what to do in this or that type of situation, but what
are the chances of that same situation happening to you. Most teenagers
wouldn’t pay any attention to what people would have to say.
Q10) Comment on the “bottom line”.
The
“bottom line” is very true. Teenagers are trying to be accepted as adults
but most adults stereotype teens. Teenagers need a role model, someone to look
up to. All they want is someone to comment on how they are doing in school and
someone to be there when they need help, a friend.
My dad would always take the time out of his busy day to talk to me. He would tell me all the things he did as a child and how I could avoid making the same mistakes. I listened to every word my dad said and I really feel like my life is a little easier because of him.