Medicine Lodge High School
Medicine Lodge, Kansas
Teachers: Devra Parker and Mike Hubka
Parenting: Going At It Alone
By Jessica Rother
12th Grade
A community is clarified in many ways. A community is a group of people living in the same locality and living under the same government. It is known throughout the society as a whole or complete group of people. It consists of people in a community sharing or comparing feelings. I feel that the community should pull together to help out single parents that we have in our society today. At times a single parent feels as if his vitality is caving in. He may feel that the world is looking down at him with shame. It leaves him with the feeling that they are not providing enough for their children; these parents feel guilty for not being able to give their children everything they need. These problems are caused by the lack of income that is coming into the household.
First, single mothers and their children are usually far more impoverished than the members of male-headed households are. Giving birth to and bringing up children adversely affects women’s career prospects. It can sometime cost them dearly in terms of lifetime earnings. Returning to work after a long absence from work is doubtful at the best of times. This is when going back to work is planned and the children are old enough to interact with other children and to be able to act alone. It can be extremely difficult if it occurs unexpectedly for mother’s with young children. The fact that good alternative childcare is usually a scarce commodity may prove to be an impossible barrier to many women who have to enter the labor force. If they try to find employment, most will find that the work offered to them, especially part-time jobs, is much lower paid than the work available for men. These jobs will simply not bring in enough to justify their spending on childcare.
Next, complex problems face single parents. These parents are caught between spending time with their children and providing an income that will provide their children with a decent standard of living. The stresses that result have to be juggled without the emotional support of another adult. Thus, children are affected diversely depending on the circumstances. On average, children whose fathers have died have fewer problems and do better at school than those whose fathers left the home through divorce. It seems that the arguments and bitterness that frequently accompany a marriage breakup have far more adverse consequences on children than bereavement. This is especially common for those whose parents divorce when they are eight or nine or when they are teenagers. Children who have lived only with their mothers since birth do not suffer the pains of loss that bereaved the children or those from broken homes do when they remember living absent a parent.
Furthermore, it is also extremely difficult to be certain whether it is single parenting, poverty, or a combination of the two that is responsible for any adverse effects that children may suffer. Shortage of money and the accompanying stresses it brings are important influences on how well these parents and their children fare. It is hard to provide for children's needs and to parent them well, if poverty means that housing is substandard and cramped. It is also tough to succeed when the constant thought is whether or not the bills will get paid this time.
Also, the children of a broken family sometimes benefit from an improved ability, in the remaining parent, to cope with their needs and demands. Even though there may be less money in the home, the one parent who now controls it all may be controlling more than ever before, and using more of it to the children's benefit. In addition to this material benefit, the parent's enhanced sense of independence and self-esteem may represent an improvement in the children's emotional environment.
Plus, sometimes bringing up children alone has positive aspects for people. Some women find that once their partners have left, they are economically better off because they can now control how available money is spent, even when the total amount coming into the household is less than it was before. Some also find themselves benefiting psychologically from their new independence. Both men and women have found that single parenting has forced them to develop skills that they would otherwise have relied on their partners to have, this occurs in most parents. In order to improve this they have to rectify their educational qualifications or develop other aspects of their personality in ways that they had never thought possible.
Finally, I feel strongly about helping out single parents in any way shape, or form. These people need help guiding them through the struggle that is placed in front of them. Just a friendly gesture or a helpful hand every once in awhile could really boost confidence in themselves and refine their parenting skills. This could be used to help cleanse the relationship between a parent and their child.
Answers To Questions
Question #1:
In the USA, marriage is becoming less and less of a qualification in life. Couples are becoming cohabitors before they are considering marriage. The concept of The Great American family has practically diminished in the aspect of sex, unity, and childbearing. In Manus, marriage is upheld as a substantial investment in society. The concentrate on the economic exchanges that center on marriage, and the idea is well thought out concept.
Question #2:
When asked to comment on her 18-year marriage, ____ smiles and remarks, "I've been married once, and I'll tell you why. I have patience. You have to utilize all of your patience." ____ agrees with her. "I've been married twice. My first marriage failed after out patience with one another dwindled. Never let go of your patience. Learning from this mistake has led my marriage to an ultimate height. I've been married for 18 years now."
______ comments on the affair of conflict inside a marriage. "After being married for 19 years, I cannot stress this point enough. Don't ever peak your mind in an argument. Wait 24 hours, then decide4 if it's really worth it." ______, husband of 23 years, disagrees. "Trust is the key in a relationship. How can you trust your spouse if you lie about the small issues: for instance, your true opinion."
________ remarks on the importance of teamwork in a marriage____ has been married twice, three years and six years. "Your have to communicate in your relationship. You work at it every day." ____, married for 20 years, agrees: "Your must plan on working through every single problem . . . together." ______, married for 14 years, agrees with the women. "Marriage puts out exactly what you put in. Work at it all of the time."
Mrs. _____ has been married once, a marriage of nine months. She comments on marriage smoothly with the advice, "It's simple. Never go to bed mad." Her advice may seem absurd; however, her thoughts were shared with Mrs. ______, a one-time wife. She has been happily married for eight years. She comments, "Never let the sun set on your problems. You'll regret in the following day." ______, married once for 22 years, adds the concluding point: "Solve your problems as soon as possible. Marriage is the once aspect of life in which you should never procrastinate.
Question #3:
Richard Eckersley believes that the collective goal of communities in USA should be to enrich out lives by uplifting our dispositions. Our attitudes should direct our hears toward a new aspect in life . . . personal well being.
Questions #4:
I believe that a worthy goal for our community would be to ameliorate our atmosphere for the children of our society. It should be a nationwide goal to improve the stability of our government. Hence, the children of tomorrow will live in a taintless America than the one that we are experiencing today.
Questions #5:
This article comment's the realities of life in the future. The welfare of tomorrow's children will depend solely on the course of action that we take today. In other words, we must learn to accept out differences, because they are only to amplify in the future.
Questions #6:
The concept of our nation existing as a democracy encourages that fact that lawyer's are helpful in the aspect of foreseeing our civil rights as our only passage to equality. Lawyers amplify the only source of equality in American lives, and they exercise laws to our benefit. Our diversity, size, and wealth augment our necessity for helpful lawyers. The prevalence of national individuality brings forth a need for lawyers to defend out rights.
Questions #7:
Bad practices in our nation have diminished as a result of new regulations. The boundaries of American rights are at a constant movement. Laws and regulations are always changing. These changes have improved practices of law in the United States. I believe that these regulatory shifts are and advantage to practices because they aid in the protection of lawyers.
Question #8:
When baby-boomers begin to retire, they will find themselves in an unusually dormant situation. As a trend, work is becoming a large part of retirement. Baby-boomers will serve the community with their non-profit work that accompanies retirement. They will also provide services to the Generation X members which settle down and begin families of their own. The elderly that choose to s5tay home will provide job opportunities for generation X’ers.
Question #9:
I do not believe that Clinton’s anti-poverty plan will provide a solution to the problem that our society faces in respect to poverty. Poverty is an ongoing problem throughout the world. Despite the efforts that communities make, this problem will never be solved.
Question #10:
Truett Cathy and Tom Lewis were both used their money to encourage the education of young students. They were also very dedicated to improving the lives of younger generations, and they both were unselfish in donating their time to provide a stable relationship for young adults, furnishing themselves as role models for an entire generation.