Comments triggered by the March 7, 2001 shooting at Santana High School in Santee, California.

 

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"I am sad about this latest shooting. It's my opinion that young people aren't getting enough attention, at school or at home. If the teenager who did the shooting was always being made fun of, as some at his school said, did he ever talk about this to an adult ? Like his parents? If not, maybe his parents never knew. And if they didn't, why didn't they know about this humiliating thing that was happening to their son all the time at his school? I am making an assumption here, but I feel that parents need to talk with thier kids more and find out what things may be bothering them. Maybe the lastest shooting could have been avoided if the teenage shooter could have gotten some help, talked with and received more attention from his parents. Certainly teachers at his school were aware of the humiliating comments being made to the student. Did they do anything to stop it? Another assumption, I doubt it."   
Bonnie Schmidt, former special ed teacher, Carmel California)    
                                                                                                                                       
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“News of the shooting is too sad for words. Is the cause a school issue, a family issue, or a problem of our society at large?  I have thought long and hard about this. I am thinking that there is enough responsibility (blame) to go around. We must all step up to the plate and do what we can to help children in need.”
Phyllis Betts, elementary school principal, Spokane, Washington
                                                                                                                                   
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"Education takes place in many areas of a young person's life. It is not confined to formal schooling. Adult role models, life experiences, peer influences, and the media all play a part.

 

"Most important is a caring relationship with an adult, preferably a parent. An adolescent who is trying to find who he is, where he fits into the scheme of things, needs guidance. He needs someone he can trust, someone who will listen to him. Sympathetic understanding and wise counsel could prevent a tragic outcome such as the recent school shooting. In today's world such a person is frequently unavailable. If he has no one to whom he can express his feelings, a young person is apt to find socially unacceptable ways to release his emotions.

 

"There are, unfortunately, many negative influences surrounding young people today. If there is no positive, caring connection, they will fill the vacuum. There are all kinds of homes where one can find adolescents leading constructive, successful lives. Rich or poor, single or two parent families can raise children who will contribute to society. The key is a close relationship with strong values that are not only taught, but lived on a daily basis."  
Geraldine Watts, former Director of Mae Carden School in Oakland, California
                                                                                                                                       
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“I was hoping for some inspiration - words of wisdom or comfort to surface from my contemplation on the events of the past week - but I've been left numb.  All I can feel is sadness for what has happened.

 

I have 2 daughters.  My older daughter will be entering high school in a few years and that worries me.  I see the pressure that she deals with - having 2 to 3 hours of homework each day and relating to school mates who are obviously over stressed and under-loved.  I'm very sad that she is missing the carefree childhood that she deserves.  I have to constantly reassure her that although school is important, it is also very important to enjoy herself and not be overwhelmed with schoolwork...  I'm talking about a ten-year-old!

 

My younger daughter is just 8 months old now and although I'm trying to be optimistic, I can't help but thinking that change takes effort and time - what will my baby's life be like if we don't do something now!

 

Parents need to wake up!  We are a selfish, self-centered generation.  We look great in our BMWs but what good is a new car when it takes you away from your kids?  Our new houses are great investments, great trophies but what good is a big house when it's just used for co-habitation with the wife and kids?  A new title is a good measurement of success but what use is striving for that great promotion if you end up looking back after retirement regretting the time you missed with your family?”
A concerned parent in California

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 “I am not sure we can change school structures.  But I do think we will all end up with security checks at our schools' front doors very soon.  How welcoming!  Our schools are supposed to be places students WANT to be; they are becoming places everyone wants to avoid.

 

Therein lies the solution--we need to backtrack and think about what education is all about.  Teachers need to be both educationally sound as well as compassionate towards all.  Teenagers are people with rampant feelings, huge dreams and aspiring hopes.  Anyone involved with education has seen kids treat other kids horribly.  This is the heart of the problem.  Too many kids get pushed aside by parents, friends and teachers--and each one of us deserves a fan club.  If we stop the cruel words and take time to notice the hurting teens, we can stop this world from spiraling into a place of hate. 

 

The solution--albeit almost impossible to figure out--must rest in our basic human instinct to take care of one another.  Too many people have their own agendas . . .period.  We need to take care of each other if we truly want to turn this violence around.”
Devra Parker,  high school teacher in Kansas
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